tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post8193519478181106932..comments2023-10-31T03:50:03.037-04:00Comments on AUX PETITS OISEAUX: Little girlsclaudiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02640989046358711652noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-83354636187053270912011-08-02T10:45:36.243-04:002011-08-02T10:45:36.243-04:00I love this post! As the mother of a 6 month old,...I love this post! As the mother of a 6 month old, I've been dismayed by the black-and-white attitude you describe. Other than "should I use a car seat?," I've found that almost everything falls into that gray area!i'm lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09170191836929166115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-3782073114226451292011-07-27T11:55:16.519-04:002011-07-27T11:55:16.519-04:00de plus elle est vraiment intelligente et '...de plus elle est vraiment intelligente et ''avancé'' pour 3 mois...elle tourne elle même sur le ventre...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-86643238000101803042011-07-27T11:52:54.140-04:002011-07-27T11:52:54.140-04:00A ta place je ne m'inquièterai pas qu'Alic...A ta place je ne m'inquièterai pas qu'Alice veuille être un top modèle et qu'elle porte du maquillage a 6 ans...Dan et toi êtes assez loin de ses stéréotypes et je ne voit pas comment elle pourrait être attirer vers ça...déjà a 3 mois je perçoit en elle un petit ''Tom boy'' qui joue dehors au parc et qui n'a pas peur de se salir de la tête au pied...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-46132762375801352382011-07-21T20:36:46.639-04:002011-07-21T20:36:46.639-04:00guilty! as having my own strong opinions in regard...guilty! as having my own strong opinions in regards to parenting but totally with you in regards to not imposing them on others or judging.<br />you guys are awesome and so is your mama's home and property! aii so cute.<br />xo.Ellahttp://www.littleredcaboose.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-58737823489266584762011-07-21T10:28:40.094-04:002011-07-21T10:28:40.094-04:00Wow, that's your mom's house? I thought i...Wow, that's your mom's house? I thought it was an arboretum! <br /><br />Thanks for your insight. I feel the same way about finding a balance. It's hard not to get caught up in looks with a little girl. People judge on appearance and I get worried that if my Lucia isn't well dressed people will worry about my mothering abilities. Plus, I do want her to look cute. I've also been interested in the book Cinderella Ate My Daughter. I haven’t read it yet but heard the author interviewed on the radio. It made me very worried about the whole Princess culture in our society. We don’t have TV and Lucia doesn’t know anything about the Princesses. But last weekend when she was in a wedding I got a glimpse of what everyone was talking about. Everybody who commented on her in her flower girl dress called her a princess. What happened to angels? I guess it’s up to the parents to let these things go when people say them to our little girls, but to find ways to limit the reinforcement at home.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05332817856190200925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-80164007136703484372011-07-20T20:48:11.327-04:002011-07-20T20:48:11.327-04:00When I comment on babies and little people being g...When I comment on babies and little people being gorgeous, adorable, beautiful etc... it's not about the physical appearance. It's more about their childlike innocence, the twinkle in their eye, they way their emotions are completely genuine. Those are the qualities that make tiny people so, well... beautiful.<br /><br />That is a great article, and it's definitely something to be aware of. Just the fact that you are writing about this leads me to believe Alice is going to grow up with a strong identity, healthy values and confidence in herself as an intelligent, beautiful and compassionate human being. xx<br /><br />P.S - gorgeous photos, don't you just love the country! That house is what dreams are made of!one claire dayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16763753472532837764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-91674581948843416952011-07-20T19:37:01.733-04:002011-07-20T19:37:01.733-04:00what a beautiful home your mom has!
i can't...what a beautiful home your mom has! <br /><br />i can't lie, i was slightly dreading having a little girl because of these kinds of issues. i was a little girl once (duh!) and i think i made it out relatively unscathed, but i've seen how bad it can be. i think your awareness is powerful and she'll be great (you both will!). i am sure there are other issues that exist for little boys, so i'll follow your lead and make myself aware of them.tarynhttp://taryntothemax.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-70810701902621082092011-07-20T15:57:34.543-04:002011-07-20T15:57:34.543-04:00Oh! And I think Alice is going to do really well! ...Oh! And I think Alice is going to do really well! The fact that you're thinking about these topics and really care about them is great.Kim Uhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07748671388305986187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-49796258413383980182011-07-20T15:56:33.332-04:002011-07-20T15:56:33.332-04:00I think news articles make it seem like all of the...I think news articles make it seem like all of these choices are black and white, one way or the other, never can mix different approaches, but most parents that I know practice a mix of whatever works for their family. I think the media do a great job of setting up mommy wars about all kinds of topics.Kim Uhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07748671388305986187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-80405662725059134132011-07-19T20:23:25.799-04:002011-07-19T20:23:25.799-04:00I agree it's absolutely about balance. If you ...I agree it's absolutely about balance. If you never compliment a child on their appearance surely you run the risk of them looking for that validation elsewhere? The same going for complimenting them for other qualitites. It's sad that people still seem to think there is a right way to parent, every child is different which is why as you say there are grey areas. I think Alice will be fantastic with the thoughtful way you are parenting.Lilahttp://Raisedbywolffs.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-7219054314326677992011-07-19T19:52:50.828-04:002011-07-19T19:52:50.828-04:00My 14 month daughter has crazy-long dark eyelashes...My 14 month daughter has crazy-long dark eyelashes and her dad's grey-green eyes. So she (and I) get a lot of compliments on how cute she is. To strangers I say a polite "thank you". but to close friends who comment on how pretty she is, my standard reply is "and more importantly, she's SMART!". It is a fine balance. She loves books more than anything (woo hoo!), but we both had a ball this past weekend when I put a bunch of my vintage jewlery and a pink tutu on her for the first time. I mostly don't want her to feel bad when she goes through the inevitable awkward stage. It's all about self esteem and confidence-building. But how exactly do you do that as a parent w/o making them too self-involved? Travelling, volunteering, learning about other people and developing empathy from a young age (and not too much tv or facebook, I guess). Any other ideas?<br />It was a good article - lots to think about.Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14281505624408376985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-44999786357755888242011-07-19T12:51:29.391-04:002011-07-19T12:51:29.391-04:00I agree completely with you... I keep wondering ho...I agree completely with you... I keep wondering how Olivia will grow up to be. I hope I can give her as much balance as I can and that she understands that beauty isn't all. I come from a country that is so contaminated by superficial notions of beauty where being model like is so important. Norway on the other hand isn't as bad... I hope it stays that way. Anyways, to end on a positive note, we are super cool mamas that are aware of this situation and will do the best we can! :DDanielahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15971007656569988210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-86973311520631992662011-07-19T04:41:22.273-04:002011-07-19T04:41:22.273-04:00Alice is lucky to have a thoughtful and aware muma...Alice is lucky to have a thoughtful and aware muma...Am sure she'll grow up a balanced, beautiful and intelligent little girl. xoscarlucindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16828867954532550108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-56236537380982533732011-07-19T01:33:12.060-04:002011-07-19T01:33:12.060-04:00Interesting article - sometimes I am relieved that...Interesting article - sometimes I am relieved that I only have boys.Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11723377593068712400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-30410353090437506672011-07-18T22:07:25.063-04:002011-07-18T22:07:25.063-04:00The whole black and white thing bugs me too. Real...The whole black and white thing bugs me too. Really it's all grey and fuzzy! On another totally superficial note though, your mum's house is GORGEOUS!Linahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03046491553565573954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-36571925208376336642011-07-18T21:01:27.485-04:002011-07-18T21:01:27.485-04:00I kinda fall somewhere in the middle... though I&#...I kinda fall somewhere in the middle... though I've never actually thought about it. I'm not a super big makeup wear-er, fashioniasta myself though. With three little girls, it was an interesting read for sure. I rarely talk about looks or "cuteness" but my middle daughter is a total princess who loves to dress up and always asks us if she's beautiful (or rather tells us she's beautiful). I always just tell her that of course she is but throw in a cheesy "you're a beautiful kind person on the inside and that's what matters" comment here and there. :)Lolahttp://www.nearerstillnearer.squarespace.comnoreply@blogger.com