tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post7838054087913663301..comments2023-10-31T03:50:03.037-04:00Comments on AUX PETITS OISEAUX: I'm one of those mothers - part 2claudiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02640989046358711652noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-85353207056909745492012-06-17T20:13:06.708-04:002012-06-17T20:13:06.708-04:00Yup, we always worked with "gentle hands"...Yup, we always worked with "gentle hands", too--worked really well for the critters in our girlie's life.<br /><br />And we found early on that there was a trio of needs (tanks) that had to be properly met for our miss--if she was becoming crabby, she either needed to eat, sleep, or poop. <br /><br />Still valid and she's nearly 15. <br /><br />;>)kthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09130035379621517356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-71722597806066015262012-06-15T08:58:11.700-04:002012-06-15T08:58:11.700-04:00At that age I agree with one claire day: label the...At that age I agree with one claire day: label the "no" action (e.g., "no hitting") and then offer a simple acceptable alternative (e.g. "gentle touch"). When they get a bit older and you get the sense that they now understand that an action is inappropriate (and have better motor control), my response was a bit more intense. Not screaming or anything but getting very serious and emphatic very quickly (with eye contact on their level): "We don't hit. Hitting hurts. If you hit again, we're leaving." No threats, just a brief explanation including the consequences of their decisions. With only one kid, I'm definitely no expert but it's really seemed to work very quickly with my daughter for a range of undesireable behaviours.Sid.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15454696188357679253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-42020996957977116812012-06-14T17:32:16.127-04:002012-06-14T17:32:16.127-04:00Ah, you took the words right out of my mouth. Your...Ah, you took the words right out of my mouth. Your perspective is always so sound. Bear got into the habit of biting recently, and the headmistress at nursery took us aside, and gave us quite a telling off, I was so annoyed and said, quite sarcastically "Oh I suppose I should have a word with him about that"... silly woman!<br />It is of course a phase, most babies go through it, I expected a bit more common sense from a nursery headmistress!Hoola Tallulahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08329088395765574328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-78785207155539113902012-06-13T22:13:04.916-04:002012-06-13T22:13:04.916-04:00Instead of the "no hitting" I use "...Instead of the "no hitting" I use "gentle hands" and show Lalie what gentle hands means by gently stroking her face and arms etc and repeating "gentle hands" and then I get her to do it to me. It really seems to be working! xone claire dayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16763753472532837764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-84358898463938955522012-06-13T20:45:55.433-04:002012-06-13T20:45:55.433-04:00I'm really enjoying hearing about your ideas f...I'm really enjoying hearing about your ideas for dealing with these new more challenging behaviors! Helping me to think about mine...Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14661467145292736426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6788067537879713934.post-28751629974481070112012-06-13T15:46:06.945-04:002012-06-13T15:46:06.945-04:00When my kids were mean to another kid in any way, ...When my kids were mean to another kid in any way, they used to have to sit next to me instead of play. So any hitting / arguing over a toy / selfishness etc. meant no more fun for a while.UK lass in UShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01991775987342643954noreply@blogger.com