We visited every grocery, magazine and corner stores in my predominant French neighborhood to get a copy of Time magazine. We didn't find it but we think there should be a law forcing business owners to hide porn magazines properly! Long story short, Dan managed to find an online copy for me.
Sadly, the article was a disappointment. With such a "controversial" cover, I expected a jaw dropping text. There is a reason why the media only talked about the picture and the title...it's because the article is boring. If you look at Attachment Parenting and at Dr. William Sears on Wikipedia, you will pretty much get the concept.
Instead of writing a boring review on a boring article, I will share my experience with AP (it is also a fun little exercise on a personal level).
I realized we were doing AP when Alice was a couple months old. In my part of the world, based on my personal knowledge and my friend Wikipedia, there is not a French term for AP. I'm sure many parents are doing it simply by following their instincts...this was our case.
This doesn't make me a better mom. Actually, it makes me a lazy mom because AP is the easiest, laziest and simplest way to raise a baby. This is why...
According to Time magazine, AP has three pillars (but AP is so much more than that) which includes breastfeeding, co-sleeping and baby wearing.
Breastfeeding: Sterilizing baby bottles (and canning jars if I ever make jam) freaks me out. We don't have enough counter space in our kitchen for a bottle dryer. Choosing formula looks complicated and pricey. I solved many potential crisis by giving Alice a boob since she is a daredevil with daily failed stunts. It gives me a well deserved moment of peace! I can talk on the phone without interruption. I can't stand the sound of a crying baby (not the noise itself but it seems that I'm biologically programmed to give an immediate nurturing response to ANY baby cries) and since Alice never had a pacifier, breastfeeding her was the solution.
Co-sleeping: I sleep naked (hoping to solve that "problem" before Alice is too old) and walking back and forth during a Canadian winter was not an option. I enjoy the idea of having all living creatures sleeping in the same bedroom (humans and pets). I love to look at Alice when she sleeps...because she moves a lot during the day! Sleeping, even with a baby attached to my boob, is much easier than spending numerous nights "sleep training" her.
Baby wearing: We use public transportation 95% of the time and, between you and me, strollers and public transportation are not very compatible. Baby wearing makes walking my dog a charm since he has a tendency to find himself under the stroller. Opening doors in various restaurants and stores while operating a stroller require too much coordination. I gesticulate a lot when I talk...can't do that with a stroller. You can't hold an umbrella and push a stroller efficiently at the same time. And don't get me started on strollers in 10 inches of snow!
Seriously, AP (or whatever you want to call it) worked very well for us. However, by moments, I feel a bit like a quiet black sheep. For example, I preferred to remain silent when my mom friends talked about sleep training or breastfeeding night weaning. On the positive side, this forced me to focus on my mom instinct even more.
Finally, what I like the most about AP is that I have the feeling that we are a team. I often see families trying to follow strict routine dictated by some "baby trainer" that gives the impression that the baby is against the parents. Maybe it is AP, maybe it some chemical in the air, maybe Alice is the reincarnation of an hyper monk but I can count on my two hands how often she got pissed off over the past 14 months...after all, AP is also called Peaceful Parenting!
part 3: AP into toddlerhood