Tuesday, 15 May 2012
AP and me - part 1
I finally got my hands on the Time magazine edition that created such a big controversy over the past few days.
Personally, I think the picture is awesome because it is not your usual nurturing mother image. Between you and me, when I feed Alice in the middle of the night I definitely look more like a wasted alcoholic than a delicate woman gazing lovingly at her child!
Some people mentioned they felt that the image had a sexual connotation. Maybe it is the hormones in my IUD but I find nothing sexual in that picture (but I get the concept, ah!). However, it got me thinking. Would the reaction be the same if it was a little girl? Would it be more or less shocking?
From what I understand, most mothers believe that the title was more controversial than the picture...and I'm not talking about the God of Cricket (title at the top right of the magazine). I find that reaction very interesting on a social point of view.
I think that in most industrialized countries, women lost their ability to follow their maternal instincts. Of course, this doesn't make them less of a good mother. No matter how you decide to raise your kids (attachment parenting or not) the vast majority (I can't say 100% of mothers because, lets face it, there are some extreme situations that require the help of social services!) of women are definitely "mom enough".
However, if women were a bit more confident about their ability to be a mother, that magazine title would be like water off a duck's back. If less books, blogs (!) and forums were read by mothers and if more time was invested in following what really feel "right" for their family...well, Time magazine (USA) would have a completely different cover story (maybe one about the God of Cricket - South Pacific cover).
Individualism, lack of self esteem and perfectionism transformed motherhood into a very lucrative business...Dr. Sears and all the other baby books writers are living proof.
I often questioned myself like most people but coming from somebody who had her load of shitty self esteem until recently, I applauded myself (sounds extremely pretentious but I won't silence this accomplishment after so many years of personal insecurities) for following my mother's instinct with Alice even when things got a bit more rocky (and hopefully into toddlerhood).
The business degree graduate in me says Touché Time magazine for choosing that picture and that title. Time magazine is obviously not a non profit organization. Generating money by selling copies is their number 1 goal.
On the other hand, Time magazine re-opened the debate on breastfeeding in North America (and Attachment Parenting but the elephant in the room was obviously breastfeeding) but I'm still not sure who will be the winner in the end (Did it ridicule or applaud women doing extended breastfeeding?)...except Time magazine!
part 2: my toughs on the article and AP in my family