Saturday 20 October 2012
And we had our first tantrum!
You had your first tantrum last week! To be honest, the "kicking" and "screaming" anarchy only lasted a few minutes...until, in the middle of the shopping center, I asked you if "lait de maman" (mommy milk) would make things better to calm you down.
You are no longer a little baby and your increasing need for autonomy is obvious. While this reality is new to me, I want you to know that I will always be present and reassuring during those difficult times when built up frustration gets too intense for you.
I'm not a permissive mom but I'm also not an authoritarian mom. I love to think that I'm a positive parent and that empathy will be my best friend when dealing with future tantrums. Hopefully, I won't fall too often into the common trap of ignoring you or sending you away because I believe that a loving presence next to you will always be beneficial. It won't teach you that tantrums are ok but it will tell you that we remind connected even during difficult emotional moments.
And once you calmed down we will have a simple little talk. I will tell you that your feelings are acceptable but not your actions and that there are other way to deal with your frustration. And this, my adorable daughter, will be a precious gift for you in the future...even (especially) as an adult!
p.s. Alice, next time you drop a "toy" (tiny Altoid metal tin) on the sidewalk, could you please let me know so I don't lose my balance on it...and sprain my ankle! (@myself: keep calm, deal with your frustration properly...ah ah ah).
Love you so much